“If you don’t like it, then go back to your own country…”

Posted: August 8, 2011 in Categorized
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I am sure that this phrase haunts the many that have decided to move to another country.  It is the words that produce the feeling of you don’t belong, so just go back to where you came from.  No matter where you live there will always be good or bad, positive of negative issues with your environment.  Just because you are living in another country doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be able to express the challenges or problems that you might face.  Speaking about your challenges, doesn’t mean you are necessarily verbally attacking the country that you are in, but it is acknowledging that this is something that might be difficult for you.  It provides an opportunity to create discussion and analyze how your situation be changed.  In fact, it could even show how invested you are in the country, based on the fact that you have so much to say.

I’ve heard this said to so many people in Denmark and even to me and it’s such an unfair statement.  Not everyone completely loves the place that they are from or wants to continue their life in their home country, and some for many different factors have been forced to leave their home country (such as refugees, asylum seekers, or other groups of migrants).  Everyone has a voice and ideally should be able to use it, within reason of course and hopefully with some reflection that words have consequences and we are accountable for what we say.

On the other hand, I am aware of those that move to a country and do nothing but complain and focus on all the negative aspects.  This is not to excuse those that are guilty of such behavior.  But with an increasing globalized world, many countries are experiencing demographic changes which undoubtedly will bring about challenges with co-existing with people that you probably are not use to (culturally speaking).  So, the next time you think about telling someone, “If you don’t like it then go back to your own country… ”, at least try to understand their perspective.

  1. Thanks for bringing this subject up! Every time I got the chance to criticize Denmark, I got told off with this exact sentence, or something in the line of “Why you hate Denmark so much?”

    They don’t understand that I don’t *HATE* this place, I would have left long time ago if I hated it – but I was merely criticizing the system, hoping that they could see the flaws – those that we had seen, but some Danes chose to shut their eyes, stick fingers to their ears and sing LA LA LA in loud voices so they couldn’t hear anything we said.

    That said, I do know Danes who are genuinely interested in what we see, feel, experience every day as an immigrant in this country but sadly they are the minorities in the country, at least not those who sit in the government who could actually change the policy and fix the flaws for good.

    It’s a complex problem and every country has its flaws. I know mine sucks big time and I do realize that, but I don’t understand why when I point out Denmark’s imperfection then they would reply with something like “Your country is worse”. Are we still in the kindergarten here? Yes, my country is worse, but that doesn’t mean we can’t discuss yours, can we?

    Anyway – good to read your blog again 😉

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